“We need never be ashamed of our tears.” Charles Dickens
What is it about tears that should be so terrifying? the touch of God is marked by tears…deep, soul-shaking tears, weeping…it comes when that last barrier is down and you surrender yourself to health and wholeness” David Wilkerson, The Cross and the Switchblade
“You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” Psalm 56:8 NLT King David
“Jesus wept” John 11:35
We need to cry…it’s part of the way we are made as human beings. There have been many studies on the subject of tears but the bottom line is that it is part of who we are.
Other than the eye being irritated by a foreign object or an onion :), crying is an emotional response of the heart. We cry when we are hurt, broken, sad, grieving, when we love or suffer loss of love, remembering old memories and even when we are overjoyed.
I LOVE to laugh so hard that I cry…and that happens often. Tears will stream down my face because I laugh and laugh and laugh from my belly. It makes me want to laugh even now as I think about it. I need to do that more. I know you can’t MAKE yourself laugh like that, but when it happens it’s wonderful! I will take those kind of tears any day!
“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit dries the bones” Proverbs 17:22
However, on the opposite side of the joyful expression of tears is the hurt, grief, etc. And this is what I want to focus on. You see, thousands of years ago there was an ancient custom of putting tears which were shed for the death of a loved one into a bottle and offering them on the tomb. These bottles were made from different elements like glass and pottery.
That’s why David said in Psalm 56:8, “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.”
You see, God has kept a record of every tear that we shed as we run after his heart. He keeps perfect records! Nothing that I go through in life gets unnoticed by the Lord…nothing! All the tears that you shed through the pain, struggles, hurt, disappointments, brokenness, loss of love, etc…Jesus has seen each tear that fell. Does God have a literal bottle (of for some, a barrel!) of your tears stored in Heaven? I don’t know…but either way, He knows about your tears. And one day very soon, “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4 I love that…
It’s good to cry. It’s good to let those emotions come out of your heart to the point of tears. Tears are part of the healing process. I know firsthand. I lost my dad to cancer 27 years ago when I was only 12 and you can imagine how many tears I have shed.
I have also cried many times because my heart was heavy because of situations and trials that I was going through. Has that been you as well? Hot tears stream down your cheeks as you come face to face with struggles in your life. Life can bring such heartache and pain. But as a man, I choose to find a quiet place before God and cry before Him because I know He hears, sees and understands. Psalm 118:5, “In my distress I cried out to the LORD…” Bring to Him your heart, your trials, your struggles…and allow His powerful but gentle healing touch sweep over your heart and bring wholeness and healing to the hurting places. He is waiting.
Being broken will also bring those tears. What do I mean by broken. It’s that brokenness that you feel after you have sinned or grieved the Lord in some way. You know that feeling. I know that feeling. Your heart is heavy like a dark rain cloud with the grief of sin. That is a perfect time to come again before the Lord, pour out your heart to Him and weep because you have hurt the Lord and let Him bring forgiveness and healing to the broken places. That’s love. His amazing, sweet love and forgiveness is such balm in the time of brokenness.
Listen to what David said in Psalm 51, “Have mercy upon me, O God, according to Your lovingkindness; according to the multitude of Your tender mercies, blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin. For I acknowledge my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. Against You, You only, have I sinned, and done this evil in Your sight…Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow. Make me hear joy and gladness, that the bones You have broken may rejoice. Hide Your face from my sins, and blot out all my iniquities. Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me away from Your presence, and do not take Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation, and uphold me by Your generous Spirit…For You do not desire sacrifice, or else I would give it; You do not delight in burnt offering. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, a broken and a contrite heart—These, O God, You will not despise.”
God will NEVER turn a heart away that is truly broken before Him…never. He loves us too much. He wants those tears of brokenness and repentance…those are good tears to cry. And when you do, He will restore your heart and make you feel so clean on the inside.
Now, if your heart is heavy, sad, lonely, broken, etc…go find a quiet place and get alone and pour out your heart before God. Let the tears come. That’s where the healing begins. It may take just a moment or a may take a while. Either way, Jesus came to heal the broken hearted. Let the joy of the Lord take the place of pain and brokenness.
Send me your story if you would like and I will pray for you!